As I struggle to regain a "normal dating life" post divorce I find that there are a lot of things I really never learned. Or maybe I learned them but just never applied them in my marriage. The Marine and I were really bad communicators with each other. We both knew it and the sad thing is, although we would SAY we needed to work on it, we never did anything about it. It was just a fact.

  The guy I'm seeing had similar issues with his ex and so we both find ourselves not wanting to relive those past mistakes and REALLY build a relationship where we are open, honest and (our little word)..candid. That was put to the test tonight where we had our first really open and frank discussion. There were times during the conversation I didn't lik what he was saying but it was nice to be able to say "are you saying...." and allowing him to clarify before jumping to conclusions. It was refreshing to be able to say what I was thinking, feeling and fearing without fear of how he would react.

  I'm still insecure, and I know I need to get a handle on it before it drives a wedge but I also now know that when I'm feeling that insecurity creep up, I just need to ask for a "candid" conversation and that he'll be open to it.

 I guess this little girl is growing up.